relationships and then some

relationships and then some

on my ipod: no woman no cry by bob marley

the big breakup. three words that mean a lot of things: broken hearts, messy fights and a lot of tears. we all have different coping styles whenever we experience a big breakup. some cry their hearts out and bash everything about prince charming until his whole being would reduce to a frog. others will pig out. my personal choice is to shop my heart out and get a makeover. but whenever coping style one would chose, there is always one goal: to forget the past and move on.

it's a cliche, isn't it? the whole love thing. the cycle is always the same: you meet someone, fall in love, have a major fight, breakup & move on. then repeat. i mean, for those out there who has already experienced a breakup or has an idea of what a broken heart feels like, why bother to experience the whole process again but this time with a different partner? it makes me wonder why we humans are programmed to think that we will only be happy if we have someone.

i know my outlook is very "down with love"-like. but i really do believe that we really don't need someone to make us truly happy. because no one will ever love us more but ourselves. so why delegate the task to someone who will eventually break your heart?

my advice to everyone out there who is currently experiencing a heartbreak is to not look for love. no one will ever make you happy but you. wipe your tears, go out and do something that you really love not for anybody else but you. may it be travel, shop or a make over. now that the biggest thorn of your life is gone, it's time to celebrate life. and you'll be surprised to think why you haven't done it before.